The problem with loving a Narcissist

Some very disturbing narcissistic traits are discussed here. If the person you love fits this description you would do yourself a huge favor to get out of that situation. Nothing good is ever going to come from that relationship.

This is a very important quote. "with normal people, your expressions of love and concern for their welfare will be taken to heart. They will be stabilized by your emotional and moral support. Not so with narcissists -- the surest way I know of to get a crushing blow to your heart is to tell a narcissist you love her or him. They will respond with a nasty power move, such as telling you to do things entirely their way or else be banished from them for ever.

They have a my way or the highway attitude about everything. They will use any fears you have against you. They are especially cruel when they know you have abandonment issues. They will exploit that weakness to the fullest. The more you give in to this treatment the more contempt they have for you. This is a total no win situation.

This is a quote that really says a lot. "Narcissists feel entitled to whatever they can take. They expect privileges and indulgences, and they also feel entitled to exploit other people without any trace of reciprocation."

No matter how much you give them it's never enough. No matter how much you do for them it's never right. They feel that they have a right to what ever is yours. They think that you owe them. The more you give the more they expect. They will suck the life right out of you without a second thought.

Another great quote. "A clue: Run for cover when they start acting normal, maybe expressing a becoming self-doubt or even acknowledging some little fault of their own, such as saying they now realize that they haven't treated you right or that they took advantage of you before. They're just softening you up for something really nasty. These people are geniuses of "Come closer so I can slap you."

How true this is. It's so easy to fall for this. When you love them and start thinking that just maybe this time they really mean it. They can be so charming that you melt and your resolve to break out of this relationship weakens. You start to believe that there really is a chance for a happy future only to have the rug pulled out from under you in the rudest way possible. The funny part is they make you believe that it's all your fault. Maybe it is because you fell for the same old BS time and time again.

The most important thing to remember is Never love anything that can't love you back.